On Losing

Not too long ago an old school friend placed an announcement about his father who was admitted to the hospital. The prognosis did not look very good and it seemed that everyone was expecting the worst but hoping for the best.


Not long after he placed an update on Facebook that his father had passed, when he did so it remind me of my own father's death only 25 yrs earlier and the feelings that I had experienced during the sudden death.


I was in the military then and shortly after had to travel back to Germany with my then-wife and infant daughter. While struggling with the loss, I found myself in the local community book store where I stumbled onto a book called "On Death and Dying".


Chapter One, I read the Poem which helped me cope and to understand the experience which would later prepare me for yet another loss. My mother...


I want to share that poem and dedicated this to my friend Felix Crespo and his family.


"Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them.
Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it.
Let me not look for allies in life's battlefield but to my own strength.
Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved but hope for the patience win my freedom.
Grant me that I may not be a coward, feeling your mercy in my success alone, but let me find the grasp of your hand in my failure"

God bless you and your family.

Dia de San Valentin

El día de tarjeta del día de San Valentín no es todo sobre rosas, caramelos, y cenas costosas.

Tiene antecedentes históricos también.

Completamente el contrario a lo que puede creer, el día de tarjeta del día de San Valentín no fue creado por las empresas de tarjetas para vender tarjetas y caramelos. Es realmente un día de fiesta sancionado por la iglesia, el papa Gelasius en el 14 de febrero otorgo este día como dia de San Valentín cerca de 498 A.D.

Cubierto en misterio, los orígenes exactos de la celebración de la tarjeta del día de San Valentín, son algo confusos, según History.com. Mientras que la historia del día de fiesta está bien documentada con los años, el santo (o los santos) que ha sido nombrado para esta fiesta está en el aire.

Es todavía confusa exactamente quién era realmente el santo celebrado del amor, como la iglesia católica reconoce a 3 santos separados nombrados Valentine o Valentinus. Todos eran mártires.

De History.com:



Según una leyenda, Valentin mismo envio el la primera tarjeta del día de San Valentín. Mientras que s encontraba en la prisión, se cree que Valentín cayó en amor con una chica joven -- quién puede haber sido hija de sus encarcelador -- quién lo visitó durante su confinamiento. Antes de su muerte, se alega que él le escribió una carta, que él firmó “de tu Valentín,” una expresión que todavía sigue en su uso hoy.



El más Viejo poema del dia de San Valentin que existe hoy que se conoce es del Duque de Nueva Orleans, Charles (Carlos), quien escribió durante su encarcelamiento en la torre de Londres, siguiendo la batalla de Agincourt, según History.com. El poema fue escrito a su esposa.



El día de fiesta continuó ganando enorme renombre en el siglo 17mo y 18, pero consideró enorme renombre en épocas más recientes, con una comunicación más rápida. No era hasta los 1840s que las tarjetas del día de tarjeta del día de San Valentín comenzaron a ser producidas.

The Shinning Star Awards

On October 30, 2010 the Puerto Rican Hispanic Chamber celebrated its event, “The Shining Star Awards,” during which nine chamber members were honored with excellence in their fields of work.



The evening was a continuous flow of one surprise after another. It was a spectacular night.

At 6:30PM,

to

the surprise of those who attended the Gala event, everyone was greeted by 28 

beautiful young women from the NUESTRA BELLEZA HISPANA Pageant of the Palm Beaches. Each one of the women approached arriving guests with a warm smile and introduced herself and the Latin Country she represents as she led guests to the cocktail area. The cocktail area was filled with the wonderful Puerto Rican melodies of Ramiro Malagon, guitar player, teacher, composer, and co-

author of the book, Brief History of the Music in Puerto Rico. It made for a comfortable and relaxing atmosphere for mingling among established Chamber members and new members. 

As guests continued making their way through the ballroom, they were offered an eye-catching gallery of art from the Puerto Rican artist Elizabeth Erazo Baez. She displayed a wide collection of paintings that depict the Island of Puerto Rico.In that same cocktail area, each guest arrived at and was greeted by a staff member of Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies, a private non- profit organization that helps mothers receive the pre-natal care that they would otherwise not receive. Each guest was registered and provided the number of his or her table for the evening’s event.



At 8:15 the banquet room doors opened for the guests to locate their assigned tables and were once again greeted by those same 28 beautiful women standing and smiling as each one of the guests looked forward to the rest of the evening. 

The formal portion of the Gala commenced with news anchor Felicia Rodriguez introducing and thanking these 28 women from the NUESTRA BELLEZA HISPANA for volunteering their time, whereupon they received a well-deserved applause from all in attendance.

The Palm Beach Sherriff’s Office Chaplin Jose Rendon provided the initial prayers, after which Lou Galterio sang the National Anthem. Then, as a surprise gift from Mr. Galterio to the Puerto Rican Hispanic Chamber, and a surprise to most in attendance, Mr. Galterio beautifully sang the Puerto Rican National Anthem “La Borinquena” while a video displayed a transition from the Puerto Rican Hispanic Chamber logo to all of the National Flags of

the Hispanic countries.

Felicia Rodriguez commented on the goals of the Puerto Rican Hispanic Chamber and the Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies and introduced the man responsible for organizing the Gala Shinning Star Award event, Santos Arroyo 

Santos Arroyo began by bringing forth Merryl Silverman Haber, who introduced Congressman Ted Deutch. Congressman Deutch praised the efforts, work and accomplishments of the Puerto Rican Hispanic Chamber.

After the succession of surprises, Felicia Rodriguez I began the award presentation. The plaques were beautifully handcrafted in Puerto Rico by artist Enrique Rafael Carreras, who took 10 hours to create each. . The recipients were selected by the Chamber as champions in their fields as follows:



Educational Award, Dr. David Zimet

Healthcare Award, Dr. Alina Alonso

Governmental Award, Sheriff Rick Bradshaw

Media Award, Bernadette O’Grady

Professional Award, Dina Rubio

Company of the Year Award, David Lopez

Student of the Year Award, Sully Brito

The Chamber also it’s presented a surprise award for Volunteer of the Year to Sam Roman.

On the final award

The Lifetime Achievement award went to a man well known by every major Puerto Rican recording artist, government official and major Puerto Rican scholar. Rafi Escudero, A poet, composer, musician and community activist, not only reminded us of the reality of the Hispanic growth in the United States, but also sang a self composed danza and played the piano for all who attended.

Just as the beginning of the night started with a surprise visit of the Nuestra Belleza Hispana candidates, the evening finished with a powerful surprise: a video of Ramona Rosaly, who on that day turned 64 years old and did not know of the video, was played showing her in her youth along with her husband, children and grandchildren. She was overwhelmed with emotion and could not control her tears of joy – joy that touched the entire room.

A video of audience member Ramona Rosaly was played showing her in her youth with her husband, children and grandchildren. Ramona, who was coincidentally celebrating her 64th birthday, was overwhelmed with emotion and could not control her tears of joy – joy that touched the entire room.

This Gala began honoring our guests and continued by honoring our community leaders and culminated by honoring our mothers. The event, hosted by the Puerto Rican Hispanic Chamber of Palm Beach and Healthy Mothers, Healthy babies, was a first class affair and all who participated returned home feeling the fulfillment of a good year.

Leaving with a smile, I wondered with anticipation: what surprises will next year’s Gala bring?

Buenos Aires in Color

I have been living in Buenos Aires almost a year. Just recently I discovered a new love, Photography and am enjoying every moment. I carry a camera everywhere I go and I have posted some pictures on my facebook, but I think that it's well worth sharing here.

Enjoy.

The Taxi Driver - In a Taxi via Santa Fe

The Pharmacy - Corner of Las Heras

The Palm - In Palermo Park

The Guitar - Taken in San Martin Park

The Corner - This was taken on Las Heras

The Clock - Taken in San Martin Park

Marriot Plaza - Taken from San Martin Park

Partial City - Taken on Las Heras and Ruggieri

Leandro Lem - Taken from San Martin Park

30 True Things You Need to Know Now

Article written by Alex Blackwell. Connect with me on Facebook.

It is never too late to bring about lasting change for your life. No matter your present circumstances, not matter what has happened in your past; no matter your age, gender, or socioeconomic status, you are the creator of the life you want to live.

Dr. Gordon Livingston, author of Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart, a Vietnam War veteran and practicing psychiatrist has experienced, first hand, the tragedies life can bring upon us. He has also found the necessity to keep joy and comfort alive regardless of the pain endured.

After learning more about Dr. Livingston’s life and the circumstances regarding how he lost his two sons within a thirteen month period, I have been moved by his commitment to preserve hope in a world capable of inflicting such great tragedy. His ability and strength to move forward in spite of the obstacles is inspirational.

Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart provides 30 essential truths to remind us that while we can’t escape who we are or what has happened to us; we are responsible for who we would like to be and where we want to go. I see incredible value in learning and living these truths.

Here is how each truth touches my heart; I hope you find hope and value in these, too:

1. If the map doesn’t agree with the ground, the map is wrong. We are given mental maps as children. Our parents and other adults tell us what is right and what is wrong – sometimes they don’t always get it, well, right. Now as adults, when we find the maps we have relied on for so long can get us lost, we need to recalibrate and create more reliable guides based on what we now know to be true and where we want to go.
2. We are what we do. We are not what we think, or what we feel, or what we say, we are what we do. Actions do indeed speak louder than words. If you are unhappy with a particular part of your life, take a strong look at what you are doing to be happier.
3. It is difficult to remove by logic an idea not placed there by logic in the first place. By nature, we are emotional creatures. Often we live and react based on feelings, not logic. Feelings are wonderful, but when we become tied to a particular thought or belief we tend to ignore the fact that change might be necessary. If a negative behavior is driven by an emotion, then we must find a way to still satisfy the emotional need while putting an end to the destructive behavior.
4. The statute of limitations has expired on most of our childhood traumas. For some, childhood was pleasant, almost idyllic. But for others, when there has been serious physical, sexual or emotional abuse it is important to recognize this and process this with a trained professional. No matter your past, change is the essence of life. In order to move forward in life we need to learn to live in the present.
5. Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least. When relationships end it is typically because of unmet expectations or one person is not feeling love or cherished by the other. For relationships to grow and last both members have to be equal with the love they give; and both should do it, not because they think they have to do it, but because they want to do it.
6. Feelings follow behavior. No matter how hard we try, we don’t control what we think or what we feel. But, we do know which actions bring us happiness, pleasure and confidence. So, we do the actions that make us feel good. It is the action, the behavior that comes first. Take the next few days to notice how you feel after doing a particular behavior. If you like the feeling, do more of it. If not, change the behavior.
7. Be bold, and mighty forces will come to your aid. When we step out and claim what we want from the world a wonderful thing happens – the Universe responds.
8. The perfect is the enemy of the good. While it’s important to have control over our lives, it can be counterproductive to attempt to control our lives. The energy spent trying to be perfect can keep us from enjoying and appreciating all the good things that exist right before us.
9. Life’s two most important questions are “Why?” and “Why not?” The trick is knowing which one to ask. Understanding why we do certain things is the first step to change. Until we understand what motivates us, what we get from doing a particular behavior, there is no momentum to begin the change process. Likewise, by asking “Why not?” we begin assessing the risk versus reward aspect which can lead to bringing about productive change in our lives.
10. Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses. One of my biggest strengths as a person is I’m caring, sensitive and emotional – it is also my greatest weakness. While this strength helps me to build and maintain healthy relationships, it can also make me too reactive and less effective when dealing with conflict. This can create a confusing paradox for me from time-to-time, but having the awareness of the thin line between the two better prepares me to either use my strength or be mindful of my weakness.
11. The most secure prisons are those we construct for ourselves. What is your fear of change costing you? Too often what keeps us stuck is the belief we can’t move forward. Our head-trash tells us we are not worthy to have our heart’s desire. This fear; this incarceration, prevents us from breaking free and having the life we desire. Remember this: Before you can do anything, you must be able to imagine it. Imagining who and what you want to be, and then taking action, is the key to begin freeing yourself of what is holding you back.
12. The problems of the elderly are frequently serious but seldom interesting. The thought of our own mortality and demise can be a frightening one. Therefore, our attitude towards the aging can be callous because they are unwanted reminders of what’s ahead for us. However, the elderly can hold great value and wisdom for us. We must remember to show respect and gratitude for those near the end so the cycle can be repeated when it is our turn.
13. Happiness is the ultimate risk. No matter how painful, sometimes what we know is more comfortable than what we don’t know, even if we are depressed and miserable. Our misery can feel safe because it has been a part of us for so long. To seek happiness, to do things to break free of the depression, is a risk because we don’t know what it looks like or feels like to be happy. The antidote for this is hope and faith.
14. True love is the apple of Eden. “When I look back, the Garden is a dream to me. It was beautiful, surpassingly beautiful, enchantingly beautiful; and now it is lost, and I shall never see it any more. The Garden is lost, but I have found him and am content. - from Mark Twain in Eve’s Diary. True love is fair compensation for the obstacles and burdens of being human.
15. Only bad things happen quickly. When we think about the things that can change our lives in an instant we usually think of the negative ones first: accidents, our employer going out of business, or the news of a loved one becoming seriously ill. There is plenty of room; however, for good things to happen too, we just have to be more patient. Losing weight, improving a relationship, or creating a rewarding career all take effort, but the life-long satisfaction these bring can help to fill our souls when they are emptied-out by the bad.
16. Not all who wander are lost. When we were children we were told what to do. In our jobs, we are assigned tasks and projects. Our culture even has expectations of what we should do. It’s OK to step outside of the lines in order to follow what your inner wisdom is suggesting you do with your life. It’s not that you are lost when you wander, it’s just the opposite: You know what you want and you are only attempting to find the best path to your destination.
17. Unrequited love is painful but not romantic. Love is meant to be shared. When you give your heart to someone who is uninterested, it will only result in loneliness and disappointment. Instead find someone who will share love with you. When you do, you will feel the real power of love.
18. There is nothing more pointless, or common, than doing the same things and expecting different results. This truth also provides a very good definition for insanity. When things are not working in your life, try different things. The rub comes when we become so comfortable with the familiar we refuse to try something new. To grow we must also embrace change. The question then becomes what level of fear you are willing to walk through in order to change, grow and create the life you want.
19. We flee from the truth in vain. Somewhere along the way there are truths about ourselves we never allow to see the light of day. Shame, guilt or embarrassment keeps these truths hidden and locked away. But remember, we cannot change or heal what we do not acknowledge.
20. It’s a poor idea to lie to oneself. We may say the words, the words of a lie, but inside we know better; we know the truth. The most damaging lie we can tell ourselves involves making a promise. While good intentions are important, living the truth has far greater value in our life. Do what you say you are going to do, not just to improve the quality of your life, but to be able to live your life with confidence and self-respect
21. We are all prone to the myth of the perfect stranger. Unless you are being victimized by your partner, chances are very good there are plenty of reasons to love your partner or spouse. It takes maturity, patience and trust to look across the fence and know your grass is greener.
22. Love is never lost, not even in death. To lose what means the most to us is the ultimate test of helplessness and survival. I have been very fortunate to not yet experience the death of a close relative. That day, however, will come. When it does, my hope is I can transfer all of the love I have for that person to others still with me. In that way, the love for the person lost will always be alive.
23. Nobody likes to be told what to do. As a parent it’s easy for me to sometimes tell one of my children what to do instead of just listen and offer advice, if requested. My need to control can trump their need to be heard and grow on their own. When this happens, communication is strained and trust can be eroded. Rather than telling my children what to do, my job as a parent is to give them hope that they can be successful in a very uncertain world. This can be achieved by limiting my lectures and by giving them the time and space to “figure it out,” while I’m standing by with a safety net.
24. The major advantage of illness is that it provides relief from responsibility. In an ironic twist, the days we feel under the weather can be some of the healthiest for us. We push, we rush and we often don’t take time to take care of ourselves. But when we are feeling ill, we are forced to to slow down, perhaps call in sick at work, and take it easy.
25. We are afraid of the wrong things. For the first 18 years of my marriage I feared the wrong things. I feared not earning enough money or not advancing quickly enough in my career. I should have feared losing my wife and family instead, because I almost did. Now, I try to live in the present moment and appreciate all I have. When I do this, I stay centered with hope and not distracted by fear.
26. Parents have a limited ability to shape children’s behavior, except for the worse. My wife and I often hope our greatest legacy to our children is to be able to break the cycle of pain and doubt we experienced as children. Our hope is our children will have the self-love and confidence needed to live a rich and full life. With that said, we are far from being perfect parents. But our focus is to help them be as happy as possible in a world that takes and demands so much of them.
27. The only real paradises are those we have lost. Too often we may view the past with a special fondness, perhaps reverence, too. But the past for most of us may be no different than the present, it just feels that way. To be honest, we may not always see the past for what it actually was. This view can be dangerous and it can keep us from living fully in the present, in the here and now.
28. Of all the forms of courage, the ability to laugh is the most profoundly therapeutic. Yes, things can go wrong in life. Yes, there are issues and problems to solve. But we have a choice. We can choose to become pessimistic and not see the value in what we experience, or we can choose to laugh as an admission to the fact we are not perfect and life can get the best of us at times. What a relief to know that no matter how bad things may look, a smile or a rift of laughter can begin to make the circumstances feel better.
29. Mental health requires freedom of choice. No matter how bleak or desperate a situation may appear to look, we always have choices. Even with the absence of answers or direction, we do have the power to choose what our next action is. We can choose to ask for help; we can choose to pray; we can choose to get up in the morning, get dressed and forge ahead. The ability to choose gives us power. We can use that power to begin removing the obstacles that confront us.
30. Forgiveness is a form of letting go, but they are not the same thing. To be clear, the purpose of forgiveness is not to let the person who harmed you off the hook, the purpose of forgiveness is to end the grief it has cost you. Don’t just let go, forgive and truly surrender the feelings of anger and pain. This may seem difficult, almost impossible, until you attempt to do it.

THE 50 MOST INSPIRING TRAVEL QUOTES OF ALL TIME

1. “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness.” - Mark Twain

2. “The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.” - St. Augustine

3. “There are no foreign lands. It is the traveler only who is foreign.” - Robert Louis Stevenson

4. “The use of traveling is to regulate imagination by reality, and instead of thinking how things may be, to see them as they are.” - Samuel Johnson

5. “All the pathos and irony of leaving one’s youth behind is thus implicit in every joyous moment of travel: one knows that the first joy can never be recovered, and the wise traveler learns not to repeat successes but tries new places all the time.” - Paul Fussell

6. “Our battered suitcases were piled on the sidewalk again; we had longer ways to go. But no matter, the road is life.” - Jack Kerouac

7. “He who does not travel does not know the value of men.” - Moorish proverb

8. “People travel to faraway places to watch, in fascination, the kind of people they ignore at home.” - Dagobert D. Runes

9. “A journey is like marriage. The certain way to be wrong is to think you control it.” - John Steinbeck

10. “No one realizes how beautiful it is to travel until he comes home and rests his head on his old, familiar pillow.” - Lin Yutang

11. “Your true traveler finds boredom rather agreeable than painful. It is the symbol of his liberty-his excessive freedom. He accepts his boredom, when it comes, not merely philosophically, but almost with pleasure.” - Aldous Huxley

12. “All travel has its advantages. If the passenger visits better countries, he may learn to improve his own. And if fortune carries him to worse, he may learn to enjoy it.” - Samuel Johnson

13. “For my part, I travel not to go anywhere, but to go. I travel for travel’s sake. The great affair is to move.” - Robert Louis Stevenson

14. “Traveling is a brutality. It forces you to trust strangers and to lose sight of all that familiar comfort of home and friends. You are constantly off balance. Nothing is yours except the essential things - air, sleep, dreams, the sea, the sky - all things tending towards the eternal or what we imagine of it.” - Cesare Pavese

15. “One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.” - Henry Miller

16″A traveler without observation is a bird without wings.” - Moslih Eddin Saadi

17. “When we get out of the glass bottle of our ego and when we escape like the squirrels in the cage of our personality and get into the forest again, we shall shiver with cold and fright. But things will happen to us so that we don’t know ourselves. Cool, unlying life will rush in.” - D. H. Lawrence

18. “To awaken quite alone in a strange town is one of the pleasantest sensations in the world.” - Freya Stark

19. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” - Mark Twain

20. “Travel is more than the seeing of sights; it is a change that goes on, deep and permanent, in the ideas of living.” - Miriam Beard

21. “All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware.” - Martin Buber

22. “We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures we can have if only we seek them with our eyes open.” - Jawaharial Nehru

23. “Tourists don’t know where they’ve been, travelers don’t know where they’re going.” - Paul Theroux

24. “To my mind, the greatest reward and luxury of travel is to be able to experience everyday things as if for the first time, to be in a position in which almost nothing is so familiar it is taken for granted.” - Bill Bryson

25. “Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

26. “Two roads diverged in a wood and I - I took the one less traveled by.” - Robert Frost

27. “A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” - Lao Tzu

28. “There is no moment of delight in any pilgrimage like the beginning of it.” - Charles Dudley Warner

29. “A good traveler has no fixed plans and is not intent on arriving.” - Lao Tzu

30. “If you reject the food, ignore the customs, fear the religion and avoid the people, you might better stay at home.” - James Michener

31. “The journey not the arrival matters.” - T. S. Eliot

32. “A journey is best measured in friends, rather than miles.” - Tim Cahill

33. “I have found out that there ain’t no surer way to find out whether you like people or hate them than to travel with them.” - Mark Twain

34. “Once you have traveled, the voyage never ends, but is played out over and over again in the quiestest chambers. The mind can never break off from the journey.” - Pat Conroy

35. “Not all those who wander are lost.” - J. R. R. Tolkien

36. “Like all great travelers, I have seen more than I remember, and remember more than I have seen.” - Benjamin Disraeli

37. “Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry, but by demonstrating that all peoples cry, laugh, eat, worry, and die, it can introduce the idea that if we try and understand each other, we may even become friends.” - Maya Angelou

38. “Too often travel, instead of broadening the mind, merely lengthens the conversation.” - Elizabeth Drew

39. “Wandering re-establishes the original harmony which once existed between man and the universe”……Anatole France

40. “Travel and change of place impart new vigor to the mind.” - Seneca

41. “What you’ve done becomes the judge of what you’re going to do - especially in other people’s minds. When you’re traveling, you are what you are right there and then. People don’t have your past to hold against you. No yesterdays on the road.” - William Least Heat Moon

42. “I soon realized that no journey carries one far unless, as it extends into the world around us, it goes an equal distance into the world within.” - Lillian Smith

43. “To travel is to discover that everyone is wrong about other countries.” - Aldous Huxley

44. “Travel does what good novelists also do to the life of everyday, placing it like a picture in a frame or a gem in its setting, so that the intrinsic qualities are made more clear. Travel does this with the very stuff that everyday life is made of, giving to it the sharp contour and meaning of art.” - Freya Stark

45. “The first condition of understanding a foreign country is to smell it.” - Rudyard Kipling

46. “Travel is glamorous only in retrospect.” - Paul Theroux

47. “The whole object of travel is not to set foot on foreign land; it is at last to set foot on one’s own country as a foreign land.” - G. K. Chesterton

48. “When you travel, remember that a foreign country is not designed to make you comfortable. It is designed to make its own people comfortable.” - Clifton Fadiman

49. “A wise traveler never despises his own country.” - Carlo Goldoni

50. “Adventure is a path. Real adventure - self-determined, self-motivated, often risky - forces you to have firsthand encounters with the world. The world the way it is, not the way you imagine it. Your body will collide with the earth and you will bear witness. In this way you will be compelled to grapple with the limitless kindness and bottomless cruelty of humankind - and perhaps realize that you yourself are capable of both. This will change you. Nothing will ever again be black-and-white.” - Mark Jenkins

Written By Lola Akinmade

Just do it!

Sure, sex is satisfying, but making love yields more benefits than the Big O. This calendar will inspire you to get busy—and score big-time health rewards.

By Kelly Mickle

From the June 2009 Issue

1. No more migraines

Yes, tonight, honey! Half of women report that sex actually eases headaches, says Randolph W. Evans, M.D., clinical professor of neurology at the Baylor College of Medicine in Houston.

2. Joy jolt

Regular trysts are linked to higher levels of bliss, The Scandinavian Journal of Economics finds. Increase frequency to weekly and reap the same mood elevation as from a $50,000 raise!

3. Extra confidence

The thrill you get from feeling desired and pleasing your partner is a major ego boost!

4. Sleep aid

Forget counting sheep: Orgasms release morphinelike hormones that summon postsex zzz's.

5. A healthy uterus

"Contractions during climax flush out debris that could go back into the fallopian tubes and lead to endometriosis," says Harvey Kliman, M.D., at the Yale University School of Medicine in New Haven, Connecticut.

6. Fewer colds

Couples who do it weekly see about a 30 percent hike in immunoglobulin A, an antibody that fights infection, notes a study from Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania.

7. A keener nose

A roll in the hay spurs the release of the hormone prolactin, which causes stem cells to produce new neurons in the brain's olfactory bulb, enhancing your sense of smell.

8. Less stress

Sexually active people have a better physical response to stress than those who abstain, Biological Psychology reports. Sex activates the vagal nerve, causing a calming effect. Even a quickie can help you keep your cool!

9. Souped-up sex drive

Levels of testosterone, one of the key hormones that fuel libido, may spike when you make love. Pleasurable payoff: The more you have it, the more you'll want it.

10. A happier heart

Fun frolics lower blood pressure, reducing your chance for developing heart disease, says Daniel Amen, M.D., author of Sex on the Brain (Harmony Books).

11. Shorter to-do lists

Bumping and grinding can trigger the release of endorphins in your body, "so you may feel more motivated afterward," says Belisa Vranich, Psy.D., a psychologist at Gold's Gym Fitness Institute in New York City.

12. Savvier snacking

Sex makes you appreciate your body, inspiring you to eat a more nutritious diet.

13. Predictable periods

Put an end to surprise visitors: Women who are sexually intimate at least once a week boast a more regular menstrual cycle than those who aren't, due to the exposure to male pheromones.

14. Prompt pregnancies

"Weekly sexual intimacy delays the decline of estrogen as you get older and can enhance fertility," says Winnifred Cutler, Ph.D., founder of the Athena Institute in Chester Springs, Pennsylvania.

15. A fitter figure

Romp for 30 minutes and you can burn up to 200 calories. (You torch the most when you're on top!)

16. Tighter bonds

Nooky spawns a shower of oxytocin, the so-called intimacy hormone, which makes you feel connected to your honey, Vranich says.

17. Mighty memory

Sex is one smart move: In the heat of passion, blood surges through the body and brain. "Anything that improves blood flow to your brain will stimulate and improve your memory," Dr. Amen says. 

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FROM: Jane
TO: Tech Support

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed that the new program began making unexpected changes to the accounting software; severely limiting access to wardrobe, flower and jewelry applications that operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0. No mention of this phenomenon was included in the product brochure. In addition, Husband 1.0 un-installs many other valuable programs such as Dinner Dancing 7.5, Cruise Ship 2.3, and Opera Night 6.1. It also installs new, undesirable programs such as Poker Night 1.3, Saturday Football 5.0, Golf 2.4 and Clutter Everywhere 4.5. Conversation 8.0 no longer runs. When I click on it, the system crashes. Under no circumstances will it run Diaper Changing 14.1 or House Cleaning 2.6.

I've tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix Husband 1.0, but this all purpose utility is of limited effectiveness. Can you help, please!!!!

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FROM: Tech Support
TO: Jane
Subject: Upgrade Dangers

Yours is a common problem women complain about and is mostly due to a misconception. Many people upgrade from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 with no idea that Boyfriend 5.0 is merely an ENTERTAINMENT package. However, Husband 1.0 is an OPERATING SYSTEM and was designed by its creator to run as few applications as possible. Further, you cannot purge Husband 1.0 and return to Boyfriend 5.0, because Husband 1.0 is not designed to do this. Hidden operating files within your system would cause Boyfriend 5.0 to emulate Husband 1.0, so nothing is gained. It is impossible to uninstall, delete, or purge the program files from the system, once installed. Any new program files can only be installed once per year, as Husband 1.0 has severely limited memory. Error messages are common, and a normal part of Husband 1.0.

In desperation to play some of their "old time" favorite applications, or to get new applications to work, some women have tried to install Boyfriend 6.0, or Husband 2.0. However, these women end up with more problems than encountered with Husband 1.0. Look in your manual under "Warnings: Divorce/Child Support". You will notice that this program runs very poorly, and comes bundled with Heart Break 1.3. I recommend you keep Husband 1.0, and just learn the quirks of this strange and illogical system. Having Husband 1.0 installed myself, I might also suggest you read the entire section regarding General Partnership Faults [GPFs]. This is a wonderful feature of Husband 1.0, secretly installed by the parent company as an integral part of the operating system. Husband 1.0 must assume ALL responsibility for ALL faults and problems, regardless of root cause. To activate this great feature enter the command "C:\ I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME". Sometimes Tears 6.2 must be run simultaneously while entering the command. Husband 1.0 should then run the applications Apologize 12.3 and Flowers/Chocolates 7.8.

TECH TIP! Avoid excessive use of this feature. Overuse can create additional and more serious GPFs, and ultimately YOU may have to give a C:\ I APOLOGIZE command before the system will return to normal operations. Overuse can also cause Husband 1.0 to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, or worse yet, to Beer 6.0. Beer 6.0 is a very bad program that causes Husband 1.0 to create Fat Belly files and Snoring Loudly wave files that are very hard to delete. Save yourself some trouble by following this tech tip! Just remember! The system will run smoothly, and take the blame for all GPFs, but because of this fine feature it can only intermittently run all the applications Boyfriend 5.0 ran.

Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. Consider buying additional software to improve performance. I personally recommend Hot Food 3.0, Lingerie 5.3 and Patience 10.1. Used in conjunction, these utilities can really help keep Husband 1.0 running smoothly. After several years of use, Husband 1.0 will become familiar and you will find many valuable embedded features such as Fix Broken Things 2.1, Snuggling 4.2 and Best Friend 7.6.

A final word of caution! DO NOT, under any circumstances, install Mother in Law 1.0. This is not a supported application, and will cause selective shutdown of the operating system. Husband 1.0 will run only Fishing 9.4 and Hunting 5.2 until Mother In Law 1.0 is uninstalled.
I hope these notes have helped. Thank you for choosing to install Husband 1.0 and we here at Tech Support wish you the best of luck in coming years We trust you will learn to fully enjoy this product!

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Skin Nutrition

You are what you eat" couldn't hold more true when we think of how nutrition impacts the skin. Your skin reflects your diet and what you are eating in many ways. The following table provides you with a recipe for beautiful skin.

Nutrient	Foods Containing	Benefit to Skin	If Diet is Deficient
Beta-carotene	Apricots Cantaloupe Carrots Spinach Sweet Potatoes	Fundamental to maintenance of tissues that make up surface of skin	Increased cell damage Accelerated aging Increased risk of skin cancer
Copper	Nuts Shellfish	Necessary for collagen synthesis
Lean Proteins	Beans Fish Poultry	Protein which are made of amino acids, enables production of collagen, the connective tissue that provides support to skin Contains zinc, which is a mineral necessary for the synthesis of collagen and one that may provide protection against wrinkles and at high levels, may help to reduce acne	Unhealthy skin that heals poorly due to lack of ability to produce and synthesize collagen The dermis (middle layer of skin) becomes thin
Mono-unsaturated fats	Canola Oil Olive Oil	Protects against wrinkles Reduces oxidative damage Helps in absorption of fat-soluble antioxidant nutrients, such as vitamin E and lycopene found in many antioxidant-rich vegetables	Increased cell damage Accelerated aging Increased risk of skin cancer
Niacin (Vitamin B3)	Dairy Eggs Fish Poultry	Works together with iron to deliver oxygen to skin cells, giving them the support they need to live and multiply into new skin cells	Creates deficiency of amino acid tryptophan, (found in protein-rich foods) causing pellagra, a disease characterized by scaly skin and inflammation
Omega-3 Fats	Avocados Fatty Fish (Salmon, herring, sardines, tuna and trout) Flaxseed Green leafy vegetables like spinach Walnuts	Essential because you can only get them in your diet and your body can not produce them on its own Maintains oil barrier of skin, which protects the body from fluid loss and infection Reduces internal inflammation	Dermatitis - inflammation of the skin Eczema - dry, scaly and rough skin and brittle nails Psoriasis - a skin disorder characterized by white scales with redness surrounding them
Omega-6 Fats	Seeds Nuts Vegetable Oils (sunflower and safflower oils)	Maintain oil barrier of skin, which protects the body from fluid loss and infection Essential because you can only get them in your diet and your body can not produce them on its own	Dermatitis - inflammation of the skin Eczema - dry, scaly and rough skin and brittle nails Whiteheads and blackheads due to production of oil (sebum) An imbalance of Omega 3 and Omega 6 creates blocked pores and overproduction of oil
Polyphenols	Apples Eggplant Garlic Onions Tea	Protects skin against oxidative stress that contributes to aging and disease
Selenium	Brazil nuts Brown Rice Chicken breast Eggs Shrimp Tuna Turkey	Rids body of harmful free radicals that contribute to skin cancer and the aging process Provides tissue elasticity	Increased cell damage Accelerated aging Increased risk of skin cancer
Vitamin A	Egg Yolks Fish Fortified milk Is converted from Beta-Carotene	Helps to keep skin smooth Helps protect against sunburn	Bumpy, rough skin that is covered with fine scales
Vitamin B	Fortified cereals Whole grains	Work together with iron to deliver oxygen to skin cells, giving them the support they need to live and multiply into new skin cells
Vitamin C	Broccoli Oranges Peppers Strawberries	Protects against free radicals (highly reactive oxygen molecules generated inside your body from environmental pollutants, smoking, sun exposure and stress, among other agents) Synthesis of collagen	Scurvy - a condition associated with swollen and bleeding gums, loss of teeth and bleeding underneath the skin
Vitamin E	Asparagus Avocados Nuts Seeds Spinach Vegetable Oils Whole Grains	Keeps skin moist and smooth Protects against wrinkles	Increased cell damage Accelerated aging Increased risk of skin cancer
Water	Hydrates skin, helping it to keep soft, smooth and moist	Skin becomes dry and more susceptible to wrinkles
By: Lisa Drayer, M.A., RD